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Nicole Lise Feingold's avatar

Your reflections on parenting, growth and presence are powerful. I’m enjoying reading!

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Nelly Roybal's avatar

Thank you so much. That really means a lot to me. I'm writing straight from my life, from the rawness and beauty of the days I spend with my son… so knowing it resonates brings me peace and courage to keep sharing. I'm so grateful you're here reading.

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Stephen Foster's avatar

It’s true. Children are very much their own person, even at a young age. I think many parents approach with the idea that they will shape, and mould, and control them to be some version of themselves. But we find out very quickly that is not the case. So it makes sense to nurture that expression of ‘person’ that wants to be wholeheartedly. In this, there is something to be learned about them, and about ourselves.

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Nelly Roybal's avatar

Yes, exactly. That’s the big shift! Realizing we’re not here to sculpt them into mini versions of ourselves, but to stay curious about who they already are. I learn so much from just watching Seneca be fully him. It’s humbling and wild, and it makes me want to be a better human too. Thank you for reading, Stephen, and taking an interest in my writing. I sincerely appreciate it.

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Krspeace's avatar

Great read as usual. You are very right..many parents buy toys and disappear to their office expecting the child to be fully entertained...wrong

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Nelly Roybal's avatar

Thanks, Kris, for reading and supporting this idea. We have so much to improve as parents. Our instincts aren’t always right because we might have grown up in an unsupportive family, or we have some traumas ourselves, and we make kids before dealing with them. I have compassion for every parent, though! it isn’t easy to care for another human being.

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